So you want to try and get your girlfriend back? Well let me tell you now, it’s totally possible to get an ex girlfriend back, but it all comes down to how badly do you want your ex girlfriend back? If you would honestly do “anything” to get your ex girlfriend back, as long as you mean it, you’ve got a pretty good chance at getting your ex girlfriend back!
The first thing we need to discuss is what happened before you split up with your ex girlfriend. Obviously each relationship is different and ends differently. In order to get your girlfriend back you really need to understand why you split up in the first place.
Clearly there was a problem in the relationship, which resulted in you breaking up; you really need to figure out exactly why you split up and what the problem was. This is the secret key behind getting your girlfriend back, as I’ll explain.
Understandably you split up because of some sort of problem. Every break up is different but usually you break up with somebody over some sort of problem between you. What you need to do is figure out what these “problems” are.
Chances are it wasn’t just ‘One Big Problem’; it’ll more than likely be a number of different things. Of course, don’t get me wrong, if you were to split up with your girlfriend because you cheated on her that may just be ‘One Big Problem’. What I’m going to show you is going to allow you to deal with both using the exact same method, so don’t worry about that.
These “problems” can range from anything and the chances are, your partner has probably mentioned them to you before. Think back over your relationship and see if you can remember the sort of things you’d argue over, the things you did “wrong”, or the things she did that drove you up the wall.
It usually helps if you can write them down, so you have a list of the things you do “wrong” or a “problem list”. This will allow you to address each problem / issue at a time, which basically allows you to focus on certain things which your ex girlfriend didn’t like.
You can usually work out more broad problems / issues from looking at a detailed list. Quite often problems will link together, which again allows you to focus on the more broad issues in your relationship.
Once you’ve figured out the problems which caused you and your ex girlfriend to split up, you need to address the issues. If you want to get your ex girlfriend back then you need to fix these problems and show her you’re trying to change for the better.
Honestly you’ll probably find that most of the smaller problems can easily be changed, once you’ve figured out what you’re going to change. You need to do it and show your girlfriend you want her back and that you are willing to change in order to make it happen.
If you are having a hard time evaluating what went wrong or figuring out what needs to change, pick up a copy of The Magic of Making Up. The guidance in that book has helped hundreds of people fix their relationships and it can do the same for you.